My husband’s dreams do not pay bills – should I make him give up?

Dear Abe: I am one man with no brothers. My elderly father died eight months ago. My mother is now in Hospice with average life expectancy from weeks to months.

My parents have lived a long and fruitful life, and I am proud of both. We were always very close. Since their final diseases, it has been able to work somewhat well.

My problem is with some “operators”. For example, I can no longer go to the beach because I always remember my father’s voice welcoming me at home when I came back.

The worst is when people see my childhood pictures and say: “Your parents must love you so much.”

I know that these people mean well, but I cannot help sadness over the association I have gone through and lost with my father.

I plan to find advice, but I appreciate any advice that you will get about reducing the effect of these operators. – Their son in San Diego

Dear Son: I hope to accept my sympathy with your father’s loss. You may need help in dealing with the pain of losing it, as well as dealing with your mother’s diagnosis.

When a member of his family dies, there is, of course, sweet memories and bitter. Its administration is an individual process.

If you don’t join the sadness support group, I urge you to find one. If the setting of the group does not provide sufficient assistance to the overwhelming emotions you feel, the licensed psychological treatment can provide more support.

People who help your mother to care for the elderly can definitely suggest some resources for you. Please do not postpone it. Start now.

Dear Abe: How long will you give your partner to get a full -time job?

What if this partner is useful in other areas of the family, where he brought the lease income from a house he owns and helped with children? I am in trouble.

My wife has been working as an assistant professor since we met and remained in that profession for 17 years without interest or salary that could support us.

We have children now, and I am working for more than 10 years to provide a lifestyle for our family.

Do you allow your husband to continue the dream of a assistant professor, or make him get an additional part -time job to bring more income?

Do you leave this person if he does not want to do more to help save the family? – It was exhausted in the state of Pennsylvania

Dear exhausted: Will your husband improve your lifestyle? You and your husband must consult a financial advisor and discuss your situation.

From what you wrote, your husband sits anything. He may do his best to contribute in other ways.

If you do not add numbers, it can need to do something more to generate income. But the word warning: Do not issue an alert unless you are ready to follow up.

Dear Abe, written by Abigil van Burin, also known as Jin Phillips, and was founded by her mother Pauline Phillips. Call my dear Abby at Dearabby.com or Po Box 69440, Los Angeles, California 90069.